Dear Amy: For the past year, I have been dating a man who is separated from his wife. They separated shortly before we started dating, and both want a divorce. He loves his two children (11 and 13) very much, but does (fairly openly) regret having children with her. He and I currently live together - I know we rushed this, but there were various factors (he is still paying the mortgage on his house, and all expenses. His wife doesn’t work). His friends know about me, but his wife is barely aware of my existence/importance to him, and doesn’t know that we live together. I’m fine with this because her knowing could make the divorce worse. Nor do I really want to interact with her. Bluntly speaking, he is dreading starting divorce proceedings due to the nastiness that could ensue around the money/ potentially selling their house. He is not moving forward, and is very upset when I bring it up. I am 31, and very much want to have a family (especially with him). He also echoes this and says he wants the same thing. My concern is that the divorce will take a long time due to his fears/inaction, and thus the integration of me into his life (i.e. meeting his children) will take more time, and I’ll be too old to have a child.