The Garden City Telegram
1/18/2014
SOUTHWEST LIFE

Wedding planning can turn your life into a whirlwind

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Let the planning begin.

My daughter, Claire, and her fiancé, Trevor, have set a date, and now the plans are beginning.

The wedding will be July 18, 2015, but there's a lot to do between now and then.

I have to admit, I don't remember a lot about planning my own wedding.

My wife, Kelly, and I talked over everything, but my job was to say yes.

I lived in David City, Neb., at the time, and Kelly was living in Norfolk, Neb.

It worked out well. I recommend all budding grooms move out of town when it comes time to plan their wedding. It really reduced my stress level.

I remember coming to Norfolk on weekends while Kelly and her mother "discussed" the wedding.

Obviously, plans were made. We had a rehearsal dinner, we had a wedding, we had a meal and a dance.

I know my wife asked my opinion. However, questions may have been phrased like this:

"I think we should get married May 2. What do you think?"

Of course the right answer is, "That's fine, dear."

I remember the day of the wedding and looking at the discrepancy between my wife's family and mine.

I have a small family, so the pews were mostly empty on my side of the church.

My wife has a large family who nearly filled her side.

It was kind of funny to look at.

I have no idea what Claire and Trevor's wedding will be like.

I know they would like a small wedding.

My wife was going through the list of people in our family. She came up with around 190 people — about 170 of those were Kelly's relatives.

Those numbers do not include Trevor's family.

Claire and Trevor will have to decide how big their wedding will be.

That is why planning a wedding is so stressful, and it's easy to become overwhelmed. It's a good thing there is time.

So far they have a church and a reception hall. We met with a wedding planner to go over decorations.

The color scheme is coming together, and the wedding parties are being decided.

I like being on this side of the wedding.

I can be the proud dad and soon-to-be father-in-law, but it is not my wedding.

Trevor and Claire will have to negotiate all the details with the help of the moms.

All the time they are thinking about their wedding, they have to finish college and graduate in May. Trevor will need to find a job, and Claire will head back to school.

The next year and a half will be busy, and probably zoom by. I hope everyone can enjoy it.

Patrick Murphy, of Humphrey, Neb., is a former assistant managing editor of The Telegram.